In my family we have a saying….I'm Jello! It's our short for "jealous". Yes, we are from Mississippi. Yes, we can spell and we see that this is not the correct spelling. But we're also fun and definitely a more fun way to admit to super-not-fun jealousy.
I have realized over the past few years that a clear sign I am "jello" is criticizing or judging someone else. We've all heard or been a part of the comments. The need to point out how someone dresses, how they do or don't parent, what they have, how “frivolous” they are with their money, how "irresponsible" they are, how they are "never home", "workaholics", couldn't possibly be happy, must have a horrible marriage, are trying too hard, and the list goes on. It's easy to put down what we are jealous of so we can feel better about ourselves, our circumstances and our decisions.
"Wrath is cruel, anger is overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?" Proverbs 27:4
The bottom line- jealousy is UGLY! An awful part of jealousy is, when recognized, it acknowledges that the person we are jealous of has something we want. That's the last thing I want to admit!!!! I even struggle with typing that right now. You see, the problem I have usually has little to do with the person I envy. The problem usually lies within my heart.
I have learned when I admit to my jealousy, an amazing thing happens. I grow. It frees me to be honest with God. It opens the door for God to change my heart. And sometimes, it frees my heart from the jealousy I feel. Not every time! I mean, let's be honest, we probably all have "that person" that seems to have the perfect everything. My suggestion…. after you vent to God, sing your praises to him. Personally, It's hard for me to want someone else's life when I am so thankful for my own.